Leo

Do I have the right to choose my own friends? I know I am technically under age, but my aunt, who is my guardian in Australia, has forbidden me from seeing a certain guy and his friends. Do you think she has the right to do that, and do I have to obey her?

She says they are much too old for me (like they're in their thirties - I think,) and are a bad influence on me. I think they are fun and wicked cool in their own way, and I like being with them.

The main problem is that I got a bit wasted the last time I was with them, and my aunt chucked a wobbly over that. Like I said I wouldn't drink too much again, but she does not trust me.

The main problem was I had too many different kinds of drinks, and it made me sick. But I'm not a small child and I know enough not to do that again.

Please don't automatically take her side - but can I go against her wishes? I know I'm legally a minor, but I don't think the law allows my aunt to control everything in my personal life. What do you people think?

youcanhandlethetruth

You've got to think of it from her point of view - you're under age, go drinking with thirty year olds and come back and are sick.

Sure you admit you were wrong but do you want to do it again ?

You say "I think they are fun and wicked cool in their own way, and I like being with them." but do you think they care about you ? I think your Aunt cares a lot more about you then these guys that's for sure. If they guys let you drink when you're underage then that's irresposnsible of them - period.

Being young can be a bummer, but why do you want to bum around with these guys drinking alcohol anyway ? It won't help you - I advise you to steer well clear of this evil drug that destroys your brain.

They may seem cool at your age but you're asking for trouble if you cause a commotion on this one.

Who do you value more - your Aunt or a bunch of older guys you won't even be friends with in a few years time ?

My advice - respect your Aunt and appreciate the fact that she's looking after your best interests because believe me, she really is.

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Clippo

Without knowing much more of your ‘relationships’ with these 30-year olds, or with your Aunt, it’s difficult for an outsider to be completely impartial in this case. But, as usual some would say, that won’t stop me giving you my opinion as follows:-

So you’re under 18 years, & your guardian lives approx. 12,000 miles away, & you are ‘friendly’ (extent undefined) with men nearly twice your age & ……..


Whether you are male or female, it seems to me you're heading for disaster, unlelss it's already happened.

Why not get a real life and go and live with or near your aunt in Australia ?

youcanhandlethetruth

Leo, if you are a minor, who are you staying with now ?

Do you live alone and if so why ?

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kernow

I'm almost in total agreement with you on this one, except for your demonising of Alcohol. Drinking in moderation never hurt anyone!

youcanhandlethetruth

Agreed - moderation does not hurt anyone.

I'm not sure this is the case for Leo though.

I think he's at an age, when he doesn't need to get into bad habits that could affect him in the future.

I drink myself but that doesn't mean I don't recognize it as a bad drug with harmful effects if abused.

And young people will likely always insist they are responsible and are in control when they probably are not.

No offence intended Leo !

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Leo

Thanks for your advice, but no, I didn't say that I was going to do that again.

But like this only happened once, so it's not like it's a habit.

None taken - I asked the question, so it's not like I'm going to get in a strop when someone answers it. But not all 'young people' are the same, you know.

I live at a boarding school in Australia, and the school authorities and my aunt (who lives in the nearby mountains) are my combined guardians.

LOL! I wish I did live alone, cos right now I am answerable to the headmaster, all the teachers, my aunt, and anyone else who stands still long enough to tell me what to do and when to do it.

See above for my personal situation. My mum lives in the UK, and my guardian (my aunt) lives in the mountains about 100kms from my boarding school. (I usually spend weekends there.)

I dunno what you mean by 'relationships' with these guys, or 'heading for disaster'. They are just mates who are more interesting than guys at my school. I am not a chick, so I'm not in any 'danger' from them, and I can handle myself. And thanks, but my life is pretty real, I just want people to let me live it.

youcanhandlethetruth

You're not a chick but are you sure these guys are not homosexual ?

Maybe these guys are ok, but don't you think you're putting yourself in a no-win situation in the future by hanging around with them ?
I can't believe you can't find something more interesting to do than "hang around" or that you can't find at least one friend your own age to get along with.

There's so much knowledge in life to learn and do anything you want.
I'd say don't waste your youth like so many other people do, only to look back and think "Wish I'd done that/wish I'd learnt that when I was young..."

And are you sure it's not just a case of wanting to do something because they say you can't ?

Anyway what are you going to do Leo ?

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Clippo

Leo wrote :-
Obviously, as even YCHTT realised, my comments were alluding to the possibility of 'relationships' more than just friends. You may find Leo as you get older you become more distrustful of other people's true intentions in all sorts of situations - (as I have become cynical). It wasn't clear from your post whether you were male of female or where you lived.

You still seem to live in an unusual situation - mother over here, you & guardians in Oz - but deep down (I feel like an agony aunt - oh my god !) I think you are suffering from a rebellion-against -authority complex. We've all probably been thro' it but I think you must refect that these 'authorities' have had a greater experience of life than you have so, maybe their 'advice' is really for YOUR own good.

Finally, it's not often on here that I agree with YCHTT but who wrote:-

Absolutely

Leo

I don't think so, cos there's chicks in the group too. And anyway, I'm not gay, and I'm not a kid, so they couldn't do anything I didn't want.

Hey, I've got other mates, it's just I met this guy at the bus stop and he gave me a lift all the way to the mountains, and we got talking and I thought he was a cool dude. So we met up when I was free later.

And like he has wheels, so he has promised to take me to the beach next time. (It's a hassle carrying a board on the bus.)

LOL! You may be right - I hate it how everyone bosses me around. Like I'm 15, not 5 years of age. People should trust me more. I'm not a retard (I'm not Dux of the school, but I do OK,) and I'm big enough to look after myself physically.

TBH, I dunno what I'm going to do. I don't want to sneak behind my aunt and do stuff she will tell my mum about, but I wish she would try to see things from my point of view. Like she has a teen son (he's a bit older than me) so she should understand. I would find it very convenient to go to the seaside in this guy's car, but I'm scared to tell my aunt about it, cos I know she will chuck a wobbly.